Airline move

T3 forecourt
London Heathrow Airport, Terminal 3 Plaza:  my son walked across this plaza and, in doing so, breathed his last outside air in England before boarding a flight to Japan on 20 November 2011

Events that, in the ordinary course of life, would pass by unnoticed and unremarked upon, can come to assume solemn, if pitiful, reminders of the absence of (in my case) a child. You notice lots of things that you would not otherwise notice or pay the remotest bit of attention to.

My son was taken to Japan 941 days ago today – the 1,000 days anniversary will be upon me the month after next, another date that, but for the loss of my son, would pass unnoticed. The last time I saw him was at the security gate at Heathrow’s Terminal 3. I go back to the spot from time to time to retrace some of my son’s last steps on British soil. The airline that flew him one-way to Japan relocates today to the (newly rebuilt) Terminal 2; I wish it wasn’t moving as there goes another link with my son. The plans to redevelop that terminal pre-date my son’s birth. It is another of those sad reminders of not only what has happened but that life goes on and things change all around me – even though my life itself has stood resolutely still, frozen in time as at 20 November 2011.

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Update (26 June 2014): Daily Mail article (23 June 2014) of The Queen Opening the Queen’s Terminal:

(Belated) Father’s Day post

A thoughtful Father’s Day article from Fox News can be read here; it is also reproduced below.  It is not about child abduction but can be said to relate to a not dissimilar situation.

Note to Hugo:  I am not sure whether you are old enough now to understand about Father’s Day but I hope that you had a nice day on Sunday 15 June regardless of this.  I am glad that Father’s Day falls on the same day in Japan as it does in the UK.

What Father’s Day is really about: cherishing sons and daughters

By Col. Tom Manion

Fox News

15 June 2014


Father’s Day has always been a special day for me. But today, as with the previous seven Father’s Days, the feelings of pride and satisfaction over my son Travis and daughter Ryan will be mixed with a void in my heart that can never be replaced.

That is because Travis will not be with us.

In April of 2007, he was serving as a Marine first lieutenant when he was killed in action in Iraq’s Al Anbar Province, cut down by a sniper’s armor-piercing bullet after his unit was ambushed while searching a suspected insurgent house. He had just helped save two wounded comrades when the bullet struck him in the heart. He was 26.

I am one of thousands of fathers whose thoughts will turn today to a son or daughter lost serving our country.Travis always made me extremely proud. A varsity athlete in football, lacrosse and wrestling in high school, he went on to graduate from the Naval Academy and served our country with great honor as a Marine officer through two tours in Iraq.

As an aspiring athlete and a 30-year Marine myself, I was able to share so much with Travis as he grew into manhood. I was always happy when he would come to me for advice or just ask to play catch.

I am one of thousands of fathers whose thoughts will turn today to a son or daughter lost serving our country. And from that perspective, I’d like to ask you to approach Father’s Day a little differently this year.

While it feels great as a dad to have a day where you are the center of attention, think instead of this as a day for celebrating the bonds between fathers and their sons and daughters.  Consider this a day, as a father, to appreciate all of the blessings you have as a family and share those special moments together.

Let the day be a reminder of just how important you are in each other’s lives. In my case, while my son Travis may be gone, my heart and thoughts are with my daughter Ryan, her husband Dave and my three grandchildren.

Today, if you are fortunate enough to be with your children, make the day a celebration of the unique relationships you have forged. Drag out the photo albums and the videos and remember every detail of the experiences you have shared.

Talk with your children about their lives, their dreams, their aspirations – and be thankful for what you have.

Col. Tom Manion, is co-author of “Brothers Forever: The Enduring Bond between a Marine and a Navy SEAL that Transcended Their Ultimate Sacrifice,” an account of the friendship, lives and deaths of 1st Lt. Travis Manion and Lt. Brendan Looney. He is a board member of the Travis Manion Foundation.

Source:  “What Father’s Day is really about: cherishing sons and daughters”, Col. Tom Manion, Fox News, 15 June 2014